I realize that bringing up race all the time makes people really uncomfortable…
But I stopped feeling guilty about making white people feel bad. I don’t hate white people. I hate white privilege and I hate what it when people aren’t willing to deal with it and WORK on it. That is what I hate. Not people. If you are white and I call you out, please wait ten seconds and actually listen to me before getting super defensive and accuse me of being “uppity” or reverse racist because I’m the one “bringing up race.” There’s a reason why I’m not colour blind and why I don’t pretend like race doesn’t exist. It’s because I DO NOT HAVE THE PRIVILEGE to live in a world where race doesn’t matter. I am not going to deny my class privileges, that all my relationships have been heterosexual, that I’m cis-gendered, or that I’m able bodied. In a lot of ways, my life has been made easier because of those privileges. But you know what, it’s not always about how easy I experience the world (because I don’t consider myself the centre of the world), and it doesn’t delegitimize the very real and continuing ideological, epistemic, emotional, and systemic violence that I and people who look my me experience because we aren’t white. If you make asinine post-racial arguments to me, it is not my job to engage with you and speak for every person of colour out there. It’s not a debate for me, it’s not fun arguing with you. It’s my life: the way I live, breathe, and interact with the world. And you know what, I’m fucking tired. Privilege is invisible to those who have it. That’s how it works and that’s how systems of domination continue to maintain power. Have you maybe considered that this might be why you “can’t see race” ? And, have you maybe considered that when, for example, people of colour are racist towards you, that they have very different meanings and contexts because as a white person, when those people may have called you names, you will still move through the world with many institutional and systemic privileges that those people do not have. So, if you’re tired of me making you “feel guilty for being white” (which, I don’t think is a productive thing to do and in no way am I trying to do because I acknowledge that you can’t help how you were born), I probably feel ten times worse trying to explain things to you while you basically call me a liar and accuse me of pulling the “race card.”




